Scribble || The Royal Wedding

Hi everyone, I’m writing from a very low place as I tend to either lose words or not have enough courage to really write about things I’m very passionate about.

Ramadan Kareem to my Muslim brothers and sisters. I’m fasting away from home and it’s so hard. That and more has kept me away from the blog.

I started this blog because I wanted to show everyone what went through my journals. So forgive me that I’m bringing yet another scribble post, but honestly I think I’m good at it.

The internet broke the other day because Royal wedding.

Meghan Markle in wedding and reception gowns

Everyone was happy for Meghan Markle, for some she gave out inspiration and for others she gave them hope.

Meghan is said to come from a separated home and from an African American mother.

She went through schools, became an actress, owned a blog both from which she earned hugely.

She met Prince Harry on a blind date that was set by a mutual friend. They started dating in 2016.

Meghan is older than Prince Harry but she chose to be called his wife.

Meghan is a divorcee, can we all pause for a minute to scream wow! Yes she is! And in this part of the world women say in abusive relationships because “in their words : if I go out, men wouldn’t want to marry me”.

I believe there should be limits to the ill treatments you take under the umbrella of marriage.

She left her marriage in 2013.

Meghan is half white, half black and that which she bears with pride. The way Racism has become a thing in the outside world! Who would have known?! *wipes tears *

Meghan was an actress. Most people don’t go into the profession of their choices because they fear they won’t find a spouse but sometimes you need to live your life. I mean enjoy your life while waiting for someone to join in it.


Some twitter user was quick to say she gave up her career and blog. Let me add to that she deleted her social media accounts in 2017.

But her current role in the society really need none of that and I must say she chose wisely! So it’s her choice!

Another group are saying her makeup was subtle and that other persons would have to be beat their faces very well. Hello, as hard as I hate to be blunt, I would love to say her makeup, her day! Please if you want to wear all the colours on your face, please do if that makes you happy, there’s a reason it’s called “My big day “.

Some went ahead to judge her dress. Please “anything that works for you is true and right ” -did I just quote my philosophy lecturer!

To everyone out there desiring, seeking and praying for true love, may true love find you and when it does, don’t be ashamed to love the person right back. I mean look at these pictures! I must say all the odds were in her favour!

Meghan cut all rules and turned the tables! She’s the Duchess and deserved the media attention she got. Congratulations to her husband too!

Above age, race, class, relationships, and others. She can say love won! No wonder theres a saying :love is enough to conquer the world!

Don’t let shabby things stop you from finding true love and happiness!

Fact: Her roles includes Duchess of Sussex, Countess of Dunbarton and Baroness of Kilkeel.

Pc: Instagram

Over to you guys

How do you feel about the royal wedding?

Leave me a comment. I’d like to hear from you.

Xoxo,

Fareedah.

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Scribble || All About Lagos

Hi loves.

I have missed everyone here. One little ant entered my ear who’s up for that story? I’m fine now. I hope y’all are good.

I want to introduce a new section to the blog here I will just let my fingers type freely. I hope you like it. So let’s unveil Scribble. Yay!!

In today’s post I will be scribbling about Lagos!

Diving in…

So I have never been to Lagos, not even the shore the farthest I have been is Benin. Y’all know how Lagos is a country on its own with its own mind!

It seems like everyone has been to Lagos so if you want to sponsor your girl. *I’ll be waiting *

From the books, articles, movies and stuffs I have seen, I think I can tell a friend about Lagos.

Here’s the story :

• Yellow buses

This is the danfo and highlight of Lagos, the buzz and fuss arena, the place where you mentally have to be alert knowing when to be a polished Nigerian, a casual one or a crazy one.

Someone told me that you don’t answer calls in danfos, just listen!!

You be trying to recharge your phone and someone at your back already did fastest fingers.

The preachers that will sell manpower later!

The amebos that will tell you to scroll back to the 1st photo.

Oh the ojuelegbe conductors that will tell you to jump off a moving bus while handing your change off to you!

• Traffic

Lagos won’t be complete without the active ingredient traffic!

Banky W did a video shoot at a very awkward hour because that is when it seemed nobody was on the road.

I was once stuck in a 20 min traffic and someone inside the bus was cussing , a young Corp member just told him to be grateful. “this is nothing, I spent 6 hours in Lagos traffic last week”

The height of it is you can’t doze off else maybe you would walk home in panties.

Everyone is always in a hurry, people wake up at awkward hours to beat traffic. Nobody waits for nobody to cross the damn roads!

• Division

Lagos has somehow clearly distinguished the area for the haves and haves not!

You hear of mainland and island!

Banana island housing celebrities, Admiralty way : maybe that’s a business district!

• Theft

You have to see “last flight to Abuja ” the guy was in the car making a call while a guy just casually collected the phone from his ear and walked away!

Everyone is minding their business

Or you have to see “picture perfect ” Kunbi couldn’t leave her car for she feared she might just meet the frame work the next day!

It’s a business district and no one ever goes into a major market casually hanging a small bag on the shoulder. They would fix you in your place!

• Baby Boys /Girls

It seems most boys/girls living the baby boy/girl lifestyle seem to be in Lagos.

From “fifty , lekki wives, husbands of lagos”. All living the competitive life!

Oh there’s a party next weekend I need new designers stuff!

• Entertainment

I think I once saw a bill of a night club on social media, it was hilarious! Clubs are a major thing in Lagos!

They go to chill out after a stressful week! No dulling!

Bukas are also popular. Iyabasira stew ati ewedu!

There’s always food.

The gorgeous Eko suites! how every event looks fabulous in there!

Cinemas ☑ latest movies!

Think owanbe!

• Celebrities

Most celebrities have moved to Lagos while some complain about the busyness of Lagos, some are actually living the life of the city!

Most people have seen celebrities because Lagos!

• Business

Like you know, Lagos is located at the extreme of the Nigerian map. Most things are first shipped into Lagos before they are dispersed to other states.

Is your business BIG and you don’t have an outlet in Lagos? Check again!

• School

I feel like anyone who attended Unilag and the likes, usually have a mind of entrepreneurship. Like they already started something in school.

Most people are attending events and that may mean opportunity!

I think Lagos gives someone a business ground to stand on. Yes Admist all competitions.

Lagos is a city that never sleeps

Lagos is Beautiful, Active and Alive!

I hope to go there soon and maybe when I’m there my view might change!

Funfact: Lagos is the smallest but most populous state in Nigeria.

Lagos used to be the capital of Nigeria.

Now over to you

Do you like this section of the blog?

Have you been to Lagos?

How do you view Lagos?

Leave me a comment. I’d like to hear from you

Xoxo

Fareedah.

Book Review || Chicken Soup.

Hi loves.

Happy new May! I pray the month brings us blessings.

A friend borrowed me her borrowed book! Yes we do this a lot!

“Chicken Soup for the Mother and Daughter Soul

It’s a very inspiring / self help, emotional book.

Divided into 8 parts, I’d leave 3 quotes that caught my heart!

1. A Mother’s Love

  • A mother is a person who, seeing there are only four pieces of pie for five people, promptly announces she never did care for pie! – Tenneva Jordan
  • Life is what you make it, always has been, always will be – Grandma moses
  • Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others. – Cicero

2. A Daughter’s Love

  • My Mother wanted me to be her wings, to fly as she never quite had the courage to do. I love her for that, I love the fact that she wanted to give birth to her wings – Erica Jong
  • When I stopped seeing my mother with the eyes of a child, I saw the woman who helped me give birth to myself – Nancy Friday
  • Family faces are magic mirrors, looking at people who belong to us, we see the past, present and future – Gail Buckley

3. Memories

  • All things are possible until they are proved impossible and even the impossible may only be so as of now. – Pearl S. Buck
  • It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day to day basis. – Margaret Bonano
  • The Mother’s heart is the child’s schoolroom. – Henry ward Beeche

4. Challenges

  • Remember, we are stumble, every one of us. That’s why it’s a comfort to go hand in hand. – Emily Kimbrough
  • Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you. -Nathaniel Hawthorne
  • People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success. – Norman Vincent

5. Lessons

  • The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self respect springs. – Joan Didion
  • The proverbs warns that, “you should not bite the hand that feeds you. ” But maybe you should, if it prevents you from feeding yourself. -Thomas Szasz
  • Fault finding without suggestions for improvement is a waste of time. – Ralph C.

6. Like Mother, Like Daughter

  • One must learn by doing the thing, for though you think you know it, you have no certainty until you try. – Aristotle
  • We are together, my child and I. Mother and child, yes but sisters really, against whatever denies us all that we are. – Alice Walker
  • We can not do great things, we can only do small things with great love. – Mother Theresa

7. Loss and Healing

  • Fear knocked at the door. Faith answered. No one was there. -old saying
  • A woman is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is until she gets into hot water. – Eleanor Roosevelt
  • Luck is a matter of preparation meeting opportunity. – Oprah Winfrey

8. Timeless Wisdom

  • Life is not an easy thing to embrace. It is like trying to hug an elephant. – Diane Wakoski
  • If you think you are too small to have an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito. – Anita Roddick
  • How do you tell your mother that you feel you’re getting…..old ? If I’m old……then what is she? – Gail Parent.

These quotes can help one meditate!

This is the very first of this kind of book I have read. The book is a collection of beautiful /amazing stories from people, which talks on love and courage, loss and reunion, sacrifice and redemption and every day caring.

Most mothers tend to be disciplinarians making children distant themselves, but as we grow older we tend to realize all they ever did was out of love! PURE UNDILUTED LOVE!

I promise I didn’t shed a tear, reading this book. The ‘loss and healing part’ was so touching knowing what people went through in their time and how they healed. It makes me super grateful for everything! There were also parts which got me laughing uncontrollably!

In a mother : a daughter sees her foundation, her history and the lives of all those women who came before her. She sees herself and understands what it means to be a woman.

In her daughter : a mother sees her hopes and expectation, fulfillment, perhaps, of her dreams and a journey down the road not taken. From her first breath, a daughter opens new vistas for her mother to reach beyond herself.

In a nutshell, i’m glad I got to borrow this book!

It’s really chicken soup for the mother and daughter soul. “stories to warm your heart and honour the relationship “

If you have a not so good relationship with your family, please fix it.

If ever you come across this book, I promise it’s a very nice read. Get it.

I hope this post was helpful.

Ps: peep my first flatlay.

Now over to you.

Do you borrow books that were borrowed?

How’s my amateur flatlay photos?

Have you read any chicken soup books?

Leave me a comment. I’d love to hear from you.

Xoxo,

Fareedah.

Food || Okra

Hi loves!

I hope I don’t sound weird but I miss y’all. How y’all doing? Today is one of those hyper days, I have been twerking to “Lemon by N.E.R.D and Rihanna” (I’m terrible at it though) 😂

In today’s post I’d be sharing this quick, easy and mouthwatering recipe! I made okra!

Okra is one of the most easy and digestible meals eaten all over the world.

Most people make this meal

  • with palm oil / veg /ogbono
  • eat it with swallow / Rice.

I can’t eat okra with rice!

I love my okra oil-less, veg free, and with fresh pepper!

Here’s my quick recipe

You will need:

Okra, fresh pepper, crayfish, fish/meat, stock cubes, salt.

Prep:

  • Slice / grate okra
  • Grate pepper
  • Mill crayfish
  • Prep fish/meat

Method:

  • Place pot on fire, add water.
  • Boil fish with stock cubes and salt
  • Add pepper, crayfish and okra
  • Season to taste
  • Bring to boil while stirring

I don’t cover my okra while cooking, check my food myths post to know why.

I don’t add veg because there is already enough green in the pot!

I don’t add palm oil because I don’t feel the need here (personal choice) .

Okay, your soup is ready!

Okra soup

Bon appetit!

You can eat with any swallow of ur choice. I prefer Eba, amala or pounded yam in that order! Okra happens to be my fave!

I had this with wheat.

I digress,
Some time ago, I made wheat for my mom, it was terrible (so she said).
I felt very bad, I honestly didn’t know what went wrong!!!!

Nigerian mothers have sworn that their girls must be better cooks!
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Since that day, I never made wheat again, I always shy away from it.
So today she asked for wheat again. Ghen – Ghen my heart raced and stopped and continued!
I was very conscious of every step, EVERY STEP!!!

The wheat I spent half of my life making….. CAME OUT WELL!!!😋
That feeling of accomplishment!
I’m gonna add wheatmaker to my cv!

Thanks for reading this far!

Over to you,

How do you make / enjoy ur okra?

What’s your okra companion?

Have you ever made any dish that almost dragged out your reps?

Leave me a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

Xoxo,

Fareedah.

Self Help || Investing In Yourself

Hi loves!

How y’all doing? I’m doing okay!

This is a new section, I hope to enlighten us and help us grow here. I did a post here on Queen Elizabeth.

Diving in!!

Investments may come to you as a huge word, like you will need a ton of fortune to get that castle up.

Investments are stuffs we put in place with little or no rewards at the moment, knowing someday it gonna be worth the hustle.

Investing in yourself is never too late but because it is a good thing for you -start now

There’s no better reward than a better YOU


Here are 10 ways to invest in yourself!

1. Identify your strengths

I feel everyone has a vast amount of strength /passion within them. Like they say – knowing the problem is a great way of solving it.

Be focused and identify your strengths. Are you great at talking, writing, photography, food, beauty, fashion? Identify that stuff you want to make big.

2. Learn a skill

Just like that seed might go extinct if you don’t plant and nurture. You find out you love photography, what’s better a way than to get better at it?

3. Read

Readers are leaders and trust me this isn’t a joke. You can travel in books, know what a place looks like and stuff.

Rather than read romance novels, you could invest in inspiring / motivational books. Don’t judge me I mean life is not too serious but instead of reading 10 romance novels, read 7 and 3 inspirational books.

Learn stuffs in books / blogs ,TV and internet.

4. Friendship

I tell people relationships are very important!

Fake friends will get you a free drink but never tell you about a job opportunity .

Build good/healthy relationships with people as you go.

Get friends that will push you to be better, adding spice all the way

Note: this involves your family.

5. Body care

Get that desired body and be glad!

Nobody loves to look like a double bag of rice.

  • Eat right : You are adding weight or skin problems (which you don’t want) from junks……. Let it go! DIET / BURN IT OUT!
  • Rest : when you get tired learn to rest not to quit, that explains it all
  • Look attractive : there’s no reason in this century, you should look shabby on your way to class / work. Just dress well – neat hair, ironed clothes etc. “dressing well is part of good manners.”
6. Explore your creativity

Your skill doesn’t have to be boring.

Dreams don’t have to die.

Rihanna has a beauty line!

You could learn a new language, get a training, design etc.

Basically, just explore and showcase

7. Attend Events

Don’t stay indoors ( still guilty) and wait! Go out to that seminar / workshop! Meet people, be friendly. Get open to opportunities.

8.challenge your mind

Get a list of reasonable / achievable goals and WORK towards them. It could be like a resolution.

Eg.

  • I’m not speaking bad (insults) to anyone that comes my way this month.
  • I’m memorizing my Bible / Quran.

Just get a positive stuff and challenge yourself with it.

Remember “Ebuka gave up smoking for lent”

9. Start a habit

Habits don’t have to be bad! They can be good as well. You could incorporate something NICE into your being.

Eg.

  • Exercise
  • Spend wise
  • Extend praying hours.
10. Have Fun

Life doesn’t have to be that serious FAM!

Wear and block all the colours you want.

Enjoy and take care of yourself ❣.

Love yourself and do the best for YOU, it reflects your opinion of yourself!

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Ps: I’m no expert. This is a reminder and I thought I should share with you ❣

I hope you like it?

what are the ways you invest in yourself? Do any of these ways sound familiar?

Leave me a comment. I’d like to hear from you!

Xoxo,

Fareedah.

Cray Bucket List 2

Hi loves.
How y’all doing? I’m good!
Thanks for the love on my last post. Can I hug y’all 😘
This post is a continuation of the previous one.here
I wrote about my weird things I’d love to try,
What is stopping me, (wism)
What I have settled for, -(settled for)
If I hope to try. -(to try? )

NAILS

My first complete henna

My nails are like the favourite part of my body after my legs and others.
I love my nails. I’d love to see them in white, blue, red *insert cool colours*.

Wism: I’m a Muslim girl and our culture doesn’t sit well with nail polishing and fixing. Reason been when we want to pray, we have to perform ablution (wudhu) and with nail polish on, ablution isn’t complete.
This is hard for a girl like me but I try. Back in my early uni days I would polish my nails but I couldn’t bring myself to pray (in my heart, I know the rules). So I skipped my prayers most days. I haven’t fixed my nails before because I cannot allow common super glue to spoil my wonderful nails.

Settled for : Some ladies fix/polish their nails when they are on their free days (periods). Meanwhile there is henna I always try to apply that on my nails. It almost takes the place of the polish in my heart though the basic colours are black and red. I’m in for the black though!
Recently, some companies have produced nail polish that are breathable and said they can be prayed with. There has been a whole lot of chaos and most people don’t agree with that.
There are rules with the polish like:
*apply not more than two coats
* don’t soak in water, it would fade
*But sometimes it’s best to stay away from things that are not clear to you*

To try? : I told my mum I’m waiting for my goons to have a wedding so I can play with my nails (that’s if I don’t change my mind). I’m loving my henna and if I want to snap coloured nails I’d polish and clean after shots! Stressful right?

HAIR

DIY twists

There’s this saying “hair makes a woman”. Hair is the first distinguishing feature between a male and a female. I love so many hair styles out there on the net.

Wism: I’m a Muslim and there are some frowns about attaching to your hair because ablution and coverage, which is why I don’t rock all the hair I admire on the net.
As a Muslim, the ideal outfit is for your hair to be covered so basically why use sooo much money only to cover it (but Please let your hair be presentable to your mahram ie those related to you!)

Settled for: I do braids and cornrows to give me this grown look and fit my hair tie. Seeing that it is easy for water to pass through it than a weave-on.

To try?: There are some cool styles I would like to try but thank God wigs are a thing now so I could just snap and yank it off (these pictures don’t make it out because modesty).
Moreso, There is beauty in the veil and these days it feels so lovely wearing the hijab/veil. I hope to cover more.

LASHES

Peep lashes from my snapchat

I love how it sits on the eyes, taking the whole look to another level.

Wism: The way people fix them in the salon is so scary.
Like whaaat? Do you want to get me blind?
Thanks for the invention of the “whole lashes” making it easy to pull.

Settled for : I would definitely love to give this a try and wear them for a while.

To try? : I think I hope to wear it more for occasions “atarodo gang” 🌶

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With this I have come to the end of this post and my cray bucket list.
Thanks for reading this far. God bless you.
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Xoxo,

Fareedah

Cray Bucket List 1.

Hi loves.
There’s this song a friend used to sing. 🎶 There are things I don’t like to do but I find myself doing them…. There are place I don’t like to go but I find myself going there 🎶
I think it’s a Christian song but these lines interest me so they stuck!

As a Muslim girl, there are many struggles I face ( the greatest jihad is the fight within your soul) *more like the best advice is that which you give to yourself because you know what’s right*
The society doesn’t even help as everyone is out there looking for another’s fault, May God help us all.

On this note, there is a bucket list of my weird things I’d love to try,
What is stopping me, (wism)
What I have settled for, -(settled for)
If I hope to try. -(to try? )

LEG CHAINS

I’m a slim girl and I love leg chains. There’s this cool look it flags on the ankle.

Wism: The country I live in doesn’t embrace this culture though some parts are adopting this trend (it looks cute), there was/is this perception that ladies wearing leg chains are gay and in some countries, they are seen as sluts (which is hurtful 😐).
Moreso, I don’t think it can be pulled with a formal look as it is casually worn.

Settled for: hmm… It’s not always cool to let the things you like go. Being a Nigerian elder sister and more, you don’t want to send bad impressions. So I think I have settled to wear it in hubby’s house (with his permission and casually) but I might change my mind so when you see me with one just know I was in cloud 9 that day!

To try? :YES, but there’s no date to that and NO, if I don’t feel that vibe anymore!

CONTACT LENSES

I love the colour of my eyes (brown) but it won’t hurt to have blue eyes sometimes (it looks cute)

Wism: contact lenses isn’t all popular because most people would rather not toil with their precious eyes.
African mothers can give you a thousand reasons why you shouldn’t wear contacts (which includes 👇
*you will go blind when you sleep with it
*husband p
*your eyes are just perfect
* you are looking like a weird
LOL!!! 😂 😂
So because it is my eyes and I don’t have any sight problems, I don’t know if it’s okay to just walk into any store to buy them. What if it destroys my sight (I’m like that)
me that cannot even apply mascara properly is it contact I will get right???!?! I’m still thinking 🤔.

Settled for : I would let this go but if I find a pro that can recommend and help me wear them, I might just try.

To try? : I’m a semi-lazy person so I hope it takes a minute to wear them.
I hope I overcome the fear too.
Someday I might try!

PIERCING

I’m not a total fan of piercings on the body. I just love the ear piercings and I think nose piercing looks cool too.

Wism: piercings are painful and excess can scream being “too carefree” plus I don’t like too much.

Settled for : I have two piercings on each ear. One from birth and the other when I got to the university. It was painful though and I had to hot water press for a while but I’m glad I did, I love it very much!

To try? : No more piercings Pls! Kudos to peeps that pierce navel, nose, eye, ear and everywhere!!
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This post is becoming very long hence my reason for dividing the post into two parts. I hope you guys enjoyed it.
I’d continue in the next post. Please like and share with friends!
Leave me a comment! What’s on your weird bucket list?

Xoxo

Fareedah